Linda, I too recommend a 2nd opinion from a large Comprehensive Cancer Centre. This is huge surgery for anyone, let alone an 86 year old who is already compromised by COPD. I know that if this was my Mother she would refuse and as her Power of Attorney I would support this decision. I feel that quality of life at this age is the ruling decision maker, rather than length of life.
This is an awfully hard decision and I don't envy you. Wishing you and your Mum the best outcome.
Tammy