Kathy,
It looks like you guys are just a smidge behind us in this thing. Erik my husband was diagnosed December 22, 2005. He also has no risk factors (as is common with many on this site) My husband is 32 years old also. I understand your fears right now. Erik had surgery on Jan. 11th and had 50% of his tongue removed, and had all the lymph glands in the right side of his neck also removed. We arent sure when this thing started, (it really doesnt matter at this point) but it is out of his body now. I was terribly scared at first (still have some bad days) but we found some great doctors who wanted to treat it aggressivly, and it sounds like you guys are on the same track. Our doctors wanted to also add chemo because of the re-occurance rates, and because my husband is so healthy and young he should be able to handle it.
My husbands surgery went well and he is able to talk very well, and eat normal foods, (just a little slower now) We are just starting the treatment portion, so I am not sure how all of that will work, but just so you know that we are all here for you. Give your son and daughter in law this site, it has been a God send for us. There are a ton of scary things to look at in all of this, but take it step by step, and look for a blessing out of each day and it sure does make things a little easier.
You can e-mail me anytime, and just know Im praying!!
Jennie