If it's of any comfort, we didn't know or suspect mine was cancer when I went in for surgery. It was a sore that wouldn't heal, and all other options had been exhausted. My ENT surgeon said that sometimes, you just have to cut it out and give it a fresh start. At that point, I had nothing to lose, so we went for it. Fortunately, he had the sense to go ahead and check biopsies as he went, because it did turn out to be cancer, and he kept going back till he got clear margins (I was asleep this whole time so didn't know till after, but I gather it was fairly nerve-wracking for my family). BUT ... it wasn't a completely unreasonable treatment to go ahead and just remove the sore and see if it would heal better that way. It wasn't even a case of a doctor not wanting to tell a patient a worst-case scenario (I can usually spot those a mile away) ... it simply wasn't what was expected.

This is NOT to say you have cancer. It's to say, having the surgery isn't an unreasonable treatment option, if it's what it takes to make that area heal. Worth asking for a second opinion, though, if you aren't sure about it. (This was my third doctor, so by the time he gave the advice, I trusted it.)

Either way, ((hugs)). Surgery is scary no matter what you face.