Anti-emetic meds are for nausea. Some people hold off taking it until they are actually vomiting. I have been told that that’snot the best way to go about it as once the vomiting starts, it is difficult to keep the meds in the patient and so they are ineffective.

I think I understand how you’re feeling — when my husband was diagnosed, he was a stage 3/4. The doctor was not specific about it but it sounded really like bad news to me. Surprisingly, John seemed to have blocked that out. He never thought it was that bad. So, there I was, thinking about the “what if’s” on my own. Eventually, I felt that that kind of thinking would not sustain me through what looked like a really long slog. I decided not to be scared about the “what if’s” since they might or might not happen. I was determined to deal with the problems when they arose and not before. Taking the problems one at a time, in small doses, made it easier for me to cope. It also allowed us to deal with the subsequent treatments with humoour. I know, it sounds odd, but having a sense of humor helped John to take the setbacks in his stride since I wasn’t constantly stressed out. Having to wait in the doctor’s office for an appointment, waiting for the chemo nurse to come round with the medication, waiting for the blood test, etc were much easier to handle. I was also very well organized and I think that gave me a sense of control (of what I could control and not what I couldn’t control). I was on this forum constantly and I found a lot insightful advice which helped me immensely.

I hope sharing this with you will help you cope. Do keep us posted of your mother’s progress.