Hi Janner, I am sorry that you are having to deal with this.
I hope the appointment today went well. It would be a good idea to get a 2nd opinion from a top CCC ( Comprehensive Cancer Centre). A CCC uses a tumour Board approach and your treatment is decided by a large Multi disciplinary team.
Research has shown that these centres get the best outcomes for their patients.
Come here often for advice and support. There are many here who have also had this diagnosis.
Christine will be along soon to give you advice re nutrition and hydration. Hers are words of wisdom.
Thinking of you both,
Tammy

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!