Thank you all for your kind and helpful responses. Paul I see recent news of NED--congratulations! I feel like it has been one hit after another these last couple of weeks and this all happened so quickly (first noticed "ulcer" little more than 2 months ago). I am reeling and still haven't told my children. I wanted to wait to get more information and hear treatment options and also let them finish finals (freshmen in high school). Right now, it feels like the worst of nightmares. So many people on here seem to have BOT cancer--finding people with SCC on the oral tongue has been difficult, particularly Stage 4.