Thank you all for your comments.

Last year, neither of the three doctors we visited recommended radiation or chemo. The scc was stage one and the surgery was successful with clear margins that lead everybody to believe no other treatment was necessary other than doctor's visits every six weeks. Nobody said the word oncologist.

This year, after the neck dissection, there was a recommendation to see the oncologist. After that, my husband wanted to make the decision without my input and I agreed. He chose radiation, and I'm glad.

Perhaps I'm fooling myself, but I trust and feel comfortable with the doctors.
It would be aggressive of me to ask for treatments they have not yet suggested especially if I'm not the one taking them.

I'm taping all doctors conversations and they know it.

Thanks again!!!