Susan, Please go to a cancer center, as Biran suggests, where you can get a reliable second opinion. I know how it can be to get a favorable diagnosis at first then have it followed up later with recommendations for much more serious treatment beyond surgery such as rad and chemo. The fact is I *really* did not "want to hear" that recommendation when I first heard it, espcially since not everyone on my treatment team appeared to agre with it, but I went for a second opinion from one of the top places in the country and was convinced that that recomendation was really the one I should follow to have a good chance of long term survival.

The question that really should loom largest for you and even more for your mother since this is ultimately her deicsion is how will you/she feel if the cancer comes back and she dies from it and you have NOT taken all all the steps you could now to get rid of it? The only answer I could come upm with to that question is I would feel like my fear of treatment had led me to undervaluing my life. I decided my life was valuable enough to fight through some hard treatment (which I am still fighting to recver fully from--and I'm only 47--so I do udnertsand this is serious stuff).

Welcome to this site. There are great people here who have really helped me through the whole thing, as I know they will you as well.

Nelie