I asked neighbors to take care of things that he couldn't when he was in the hospital so he wouldn't feel so bad. It's difficult but in time he will learn to pace himself and allow his body to do what it can when it can. Education is great and try to take it one day at a time. It's very difficult to plan in these circumstances.

Caregiver to husband 53 SCC stage 3 soft palate 2011 Rad, recurrence tongue stage 4 2012 induction chemo, partial glossectomy surgery, cancer back left rad neck dissection 2013, more chemo, allergic to erbitux, cancer back 2014 floor of mouth and jaw, mandibulectomy scheduled 3/5/2014