Leah,
My Dad's tongue cancer was Stage I at biopsy, but Stage III post neck dissection. Your Mom's staging may change as you go along. My Dad relies on me, too, to do the web research, translate what docs say, etc. so you and I do have common experiences to share. I'm several weeks down the road from where you are, but like the others I suggest using this website, especially the Search feature. Type in any abbreviation or word you don't understand or are interested in and it will take you to some great info on the topic. Your presence in her life at this time will mean so much, not only to your Mom, but for yourself. Whatever happens, knowing you've done the best you could for her will bring you great comfort and peace. It will be easier to be optimistic after the initial shock wears off and a treatment plan is in place. MANY people survive this disease. Hang in there and do send me a private message or telephone me if you want to talk. I'll be holding good thoughts for you and your Mom. Ciao, Tina