I know it's counter-intuitive, but I suggest that you put your mind into a neutral state with regard to the news. I always suggest that you avoid attaching to any particular outcome. The news is always going to be what it is, and if you are not attached to any particular outcome, the good news will be still be good news, but if the outcome is bad news, you will have been spared the agony of anticipation.

And frankly, the fear of the bad news is almost always quite a bit worse than the actual outcome itself.

Fear (or it's flip side, Hope) tends to program one to secretly expect one outcome. Avoiding both does not change the outcome, but it does prevent a lot of suffering when the outcome is not the one you attach to.

And finally, reality is always going to be reality, it's almost never as bad as your fears, and it's almost never as good as your ideal of it might be. It is what it is.


My intro: http://oralcancersupport.org/forums/ubbt...3644#Post163644

09/09 - Dx OC Stg IV
10/09 - Chemo/3 Cisplatin, 40 rad
11/09 - PET CLEAN
07/11 - Dx Stage IV C. (Liver)
06/12 - PET CLEAN
09/12 - PET Dist Met (Liver)
04/13 - PET CLEAN
06/13 - PET Dist Met (Liver + 1 lymph node)
10/13 - PET - Xeloda ineffective
11/13 - Liver packed w/ SIRI-Spheres
02/14 - PET - Siri-Spheres effective, 4cm tumor in lymph-node
03/15 - Begin 15 Rads
03/24 - Final Rad! Woot!
7/27/14 Bart passed away. RIP!