HI there... and welcome (unfortunately!!!) Wow- twice in one family sucks... It is possible that the two are related but normally the type of cancer you have (cheek nasal cavity etc... ) is found to be NON HPV related. While your husband's tonsil cancer often is. So ultimately two different causes- HPV related cancer is often treated with radiation and chemo primarily - though they do generally remove the tonsils surgically first - if that is the primary.

With your cancer the first line of treatment is definitely surgery, followed up by rads and chemo as a safeguard - I too had been diagnosed with lichen planus before discovering the tumor in my tongue.

I am surprised they haven't already started you on radiation. Normally it is recommended to start within 6 weeks. Just to prevent any growth or spread of anything that may not have been caught during surgery.

Mind you over christmas and stuff things do slow down.

The one plus to your dance with this twice is you know what to expect (somewhat) It is different going through it - but at least you're not walking into it blindly. Hugs and welcome... plan for the worst - but hope for the best.

hugs.