Thank you all for your valuable ideas.

My immediate response to the 'news' was to hover and manage, but I realize I need to let my hubby communicate his needs which at the time are none.
He's not 'going there' much, and I'm afraid to ask him anything that is not absolutely necessary regarding the elephant in the room. Prayer helps.

I like the idea of the second set of ears going to doctors' appointments, and the list idea.

Thanks again!
Patty


Patty / husband Dx with Stage 1 SCC
November '12, BOT ulcer
June '13, first biopsy-negative.
October '13, second biopsy-positive
November '13, second opinion at CCC, T1
December '13, partial glossectomy.
September '14, biopsy on lymph nodes, 1 tested positive.
October '14, right side neck dissection. 14 nods out, with only one affected.
November '14, T1N1M0 radiation in the recommended by oncologist
December '14, radiation treatment