Time is of the essence. This is nothing to fool around with. Massive infections around reconstructions can cause the lose of the entire reconstructed area. Late treatments are always a worse senario, as more tissues are damaged and lost. Even with surgery, if done at a late date, it might leave your husband in worse condition than he finds himself today. Delay is bad, and he needs to realize this soon so that he will pursue suitable treatment. Would it be depressing to go tback into surgery? You betcha...but would it be worse to not be able to save the reconstruction and endure months of unreconstructed healing mandible before this could all be tried again? Definitley.