Hi Betsy:
It sounds like you have a great man for a father, one who suffers in silence, but prevails regardless. Apparently that has rubbed off on you too as from your writing you obviously have a lot of character and your dedication to your father is obvious.

On the subject of weird medical things happening, I have a weird one too. A throat infection before radiation that looked like strep turns out not be strep. They say they can't see anything going on in my throat, but my throat knows something is going on cause it hurts like @#$% (profanity intended) all the time. It's so frustrating that they can't find anything wrong and I just have to hurt. of course it will get worse as the radiation proceeds. But, in the end I just have to grin and bear it. So I know a little of what you and father is going through.

You are a great caregiver, like I said before I wish I had one like you. You don't have a sister do you (LOL). As time goes on you might be a great source of strength for other caregivers on the forum who are being stressed to their wits end. Just hearing a positive word from someone else who is traveling the same road often helps so much.

take care, stay strong, when you're down ... come here.

Tony