Mellay, this does not sound like a comprehensive cancer center to me. Before you do anything else please go to a cancer center with a team of doctors specializing in oral cancer treatment and specializing in radiation therapy, chemo therapy, cancer surgery, and include all of the other specialists used in treating this disease.

Have you had any CT scans or PET scans that indicate a "hot" area in your neck? Is there a reason the doctor thinks your cancer may have metastasized to your lymph nodes? Surgery in hopes that it comes back clean is a pretty radical approach to this disease without any clinical evidence of a problem.

I strongly suggest you get a second opinion at a comprehensive cancer center.