Thank you all for the input! I am still figuring out all the treatments he will be getting and the order of it. Here is what I do know:
Bx being redone today as the staging was inconclusive. He will have a port and feeding tube placed before starting treatment.(Dr orders, she will not start tx without tube) Monday will be his first IMRT session and chemo to follow during the week sometime. There has been quite a lot of confusion with appointments and the order in which things are to be done. PET scan shows mets to nodes. I am not sure yet the type of chemo he will be getting. The hard part is he lives out of state from me and I can only travel to him every couple of weeks. My mother will be his caregiver, but I am helping as much as I can. He lives in Nevada, and to be honest I am not 100% confident with the treatment center he is going to, but he won't explore other options as he wants to be home.

I am sure all of this has crossed over into another category, I apologize for that. I will continue in the correct categories in the future.