Tracey,
I am so sorry you and your Dad are at this yet again. I will let others speak regarding where to go from here, but eventually Hospice would be the best I'm sure. Is he in a lot of pain?
Please know we are here for you to vent to, and I hope you have friends around you to help.
Kathy

Kathy wife/caregiver to:
Kevin age:53
Dx 7/15/11
HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R
Non smoker, casual drinker
7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11
PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11
Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14