Stacey - I know this must be so difficult for you. I hope you are doing whatever you need to do to take care of yourself. You can do just so much for another person - supply them with loving care, information, suggestions, etc. but ultimately it is your husband's decision as to what he does with his life. Some things that come to mind: If he is depressed, could meds be causing this? and is there some sort of "happy pill" that might help him to feel better about eating and taking in water? What he's doing or not doing now looks to me like slow suicide. If it's a matter of his wanting to be in control and not follow his doctors' orders, then as I see it, he has two choices: If he wants to live, then he needs to put on his big boy pants and start doing what is medically and physically necessary to save his own life. If he wants to die, then he needs to make his final arrangements, like who gets what of his stuff and make sure his insurance is paid up so that you don't have the burden of deciding everything when the time comes. You mentioned seeing the RO today - so if your husband is not listening to you, maybe one of the tough talking doctors can explain what his choices are in a direct and forceful manner. Hope things go well for both of you today!