Leslie,
Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I read over the links, and I now have a better idea of what to insist on. I am, however, still confused about the whole HPV link. Not exactly confused, but puzzled maybe? My husband and I have been together for over 15 years, and I have had regular pap tests during that time, but I don't remember if they ever tested for HPV. I've never had any issues come up during the test, and the last time, my GYN said I could wait 2-3 years before getting the next one (as the article also suggested). With that said, since my husband has now gotten BOT cancer, is it likely that I have been exposed at some point in the past even if nothing shows up now? Is this considered a risk factor that would require more regular testing than the 2-3 years for a normal test?

Arrgh. This whole thing is definitely not the fun event I was promised!