Nancy

This topic comes up regularly. Usually it is the unspoken context of fear that a loving sexual relations with the spouse or partner who has cancer will cause the other one to get oral cancer also. As far as I know, there are zero valid studies showing that having a partner with HPV oral cancer increases the risk for the other partner to get oral cancer. If there are, then no one has cited to them.
As a practical matter, in the past I have noted that considering over 8,000 members here, and usually only one partner posts, so it covers 16.000 people, no one posted that both partners now had it. Last year, one poster tracked down one couple who did both end up with oral cancer.
I do not think there is any valid comparison between HIV and HPV,considering what happens to the majority of people who get HIV as opposed to the majority who get HPV and never develop cancer. Two very different viruses.
Short answer: with all the real things you have to worry about now, IMO, this is not one of them
Charm