Donna Rose....I am answering you here, bec. it is where you posted, but you need to post a new topic of your own, so that you'll get more responses. You are getting lost in Bob's thread.

Neck dissection...I am also 63 years young,and, I hope, "vibrant."...I had a one-sided neck dissection, and I think it makes me look slimmer. I told my dr. that I wish he had done both sides so that I would have gotten a neck lift out of the deal!!

Seriously, she needn't worry about the appearance. My scar is visible, but so is my thyroidectomy scar from years ago. I have quite a road map on my neck, but little children don't run in fear nor adults turn in disgust. I don't think that anyone notices it. I certainly don't do a thing to hide it.

Cross that off of her list of worries.

There are many, many persons here who have had varying degrees of tongue removal, and most seem to be doing quite well. I'm sure that they will post soon. And I am certain that speech therapy can improve anyone's speech...can teach a different way to form proper sounds, if necessary.

Have your mother come to the forum, and do some searching. You will find lots and lots of comforting information for her here.