Hi Bette, now you have a date and a surgical plan. Great. I found that these two things helped me focus and I could move forward. I still had wildly swinging emotions, but having that all important plan in place eased a lot of my fears of the unknown and the thoughts of impending doom and gloom that nearly drowned me.
For me, it was terribly important to be there at the hospital most of every day . Being close( I was a 5 minute walk ) to the hospital just makes it all so much easier. I went back to my room at the lodge for lunch and a rest and then returned to the hospital after an hour or two .
Do post here regularly, I will be keen to read how you both get on and to support you if you need.
Tammy