Hi Lyn,
We are almost a year out from finishing tx. Kevin was in full denial too, up until the biopsy results. We went through the holy crap phase then started tx and went all out full battle.
It has been a long time since you felt that lump in your neck. This tends to be very aggressive. Just watch for other lumps. Kevin had one, then within 2 months had many on his right side, right down to his cervical collar. The fear just prior to beginning tx was that it had passed there and met. to his lungs. Thankfully it had not. Maybe you could let them know that if it becomes available starting sooner would be good. Just a thought.
Do you know what chemo you will be having?
Best of luck, It's a hard journey, but you have a very positive attitude and that is half the battle. Our families really did feel helpless, until they saw when it was time to kick in. You, and they, will know. Let them do even the little things for you though. It helps them process. As the caregiver, it was harder on me than it was Kevin. Christine always says that (it is easier being the patient). When you are the patient you just do the tx and stay positive. When you are the family you grasp at life in any way you can trying not to drown in the thought of losing your loved one. Please let them help and love on you. If not for you, then for them!!
Keep in touch. Like David said, we are here 24/7. On some of your long nights, tap in. Don't suppose ANY question is silly. We have asked them all before probably.
Kathy