I hope this helps at least a little. My mother had a very similar surgery over 25 years ago. Back then, they knew little about oral cancer. But somehow, she managed to get through and did well. No one seemed to know back then to check other organs, like the lungs and so six years later THAT was a very bad problem. But she did survive her mouth cancer and surgery well. Thank goodness for this website. I know she (and I) would have greatly benefited from such support. Sending positive thoughts to you both.