Thank you for your responses. I appreciate the information from people who have been there.

My mom and I were told once we get to the hospital (it is 1 hour away from our home) where the surgery will be there will be a social worker/coordinator helping my mom and I learn more and how to deal with his particular situation. I figure at that point my dad will not have to hear all the details and I will be more free to ask the questions I have.

I am just trying to prepare myself as much as possible. I know we are in for a long haul. Other people who have not experienced this type of cancer keep telling me it will be just fine and it is not a big deal. I know they mean well, but I don't think they get that the recovery will be very long from what I have read before this forum and here also.

Thank you for sharing some of your stories. I really appreciate it. It just feels so overwhelming at times, but it is nice to be here with people who understand.