Hi Christine

It may also be the chemo doing his head in in addition to disease or pain killers. My Alex suffered for 12 months after treatment finished. He used to describe it as his thoughts being "tangled". He was able to explain later that he couldn't get his timelines straight. As a consequence he might respond to something I had said 5 minutes ago thinking I just said it. This caused me some confusion as I had moved on to another topic and there were many conversations with both of us trying to convince the other that their recollection of the conversation was flawed. His irritability came when I tried to correct his confusion and he realised his version didn't make sense. I learned this served no purpose, so when it didn't matter, I allowed the misconceptions to continue as he didn't remember them 5 minutes later anyway. This also happened with actions as well as thoughts and conversations.

I don't know if this is relevant given where you and Matt are right now but Alex came good with antidepressants.