Susan, this is a good place to vent, cry, or just muse out loud sometimes. We all understand and have been there.

Just had my second radical neck dissection, and I'd like to send the surgeon back to the class where they teach you to close incisions without leaving strange scars.

But then, after this heals more, probably no one will really notice unless I tell them.

I've found that our most harshest critics are usually ourslelves. Flaws that we think are big and noticeable most of the time other folks either don't see or don't care, mostly because they are too worried about how THEY look.

Sounds like you've had a successful life. And,.. the fact (if my math is correct) that you've been 32 years cancer free is an inspiration to us all.

Best Wishes
Bob