First of all welcome to the family. Many here have been though your exact situation as a caregiver, and will be posting to your questions as they come up...and there will be many as you go through this process. Try not to lose perspective on the fact that this cancer is very survivable with the proper treatment. You are about to begin a fight, but it is a fight, that with the proper help, you can win. This is a safe place to question, vent, yell, and find unconditional support. It is populated by many caring people.

So, to some of your questions. Cancer moves at it's own speed. Whether you know about it or not, does not alter it's biological imperative to reproduce and grow. It will likely neither speed up nor slow down because you know or do not know about it. It would not be unlikely for your husband to feel weak and develop flu like symptoms as a by-product of this disease. As with all symptoms that are new, your doctor should be informed of them. Make notes about what your husband is feeling, and when it begins or ends. It is important that in the craziness of all that you will be going through, to keep good records of things, and that includes making notes at the doctors appointments. It is very easy to misinterpret, or not hear completely what is being said in the shock of the moment. A bound notepad diary is a good companion to track everything, and lets you keep it all in one place. Doctor