My mom has had a radical neck dissection. She thinks she looks different & that people are staring at her all the time. She really looks no different to me now than she did before. She looks great considering everything she has gone through. She had the front 1/2 of her tongue removed, a pectoral flap to rebuild the bottom of her mouth, trach, feeding tube, skin graft, reconstructive surgery on her breast because where they did the pec. flap became so infected they had to remove the dead tissue. I think you should not worry about what others are looking at & be thankful to have made this far. Remember the old saying beauty is only skin deep. It is what's inside that matters. Take care!