Hi Robinleigh,
You would need to post details about the original cancer and the treatment that your husband got. For Squamous Cell Carcinoma of Head and Neck (SCCHN), mets to pelvis and femur bones is a distant event and has a low frequency (loco-regional mets and recurrence are more common). And, this is reason why you are not finding any other person or details.
Has the bone been biopsy been done? Considering bone mets, your husband needs immediate medical attention and do discuss possibility of surgery with his doctors. I hope he is undergoing treatment at a reputed CCC.
Hope to hear from you to be able to guide you.