Helen,
Without going into a long story, Ilene pretty much explained how I felt. I had stage 2 cancer of the tongue and stage 2 on the base of my mouth. Your Mom may have some problems with talking at first, but beleive me the more she talks the better it will get. I still have some problems when I'm really tired or try to talk to fast, but I've gotten used to it. I can eat pretty much anything, but I'm still careful in public. Since this bone graft, I've gone back to if it can be eaten with a knife and fork, I'm fine. You and your Mom are in my thoughts. If you want to email direct with any questions, please feel free.
Anne.