rjm

I have also been unable to swallow at all since March 2009 and have been on a feeding tube exclusively for two years now.
Your husband could ask his SLP about VitalStim therapy - although that did not work for me, it has worked for many others.
I also use a tissue to just reach in my mouth and pull out the thick stuff after a rinse and spit. It helps to "gargle" and then cough it all up.
My wife made me an apron with a slit in the middle and a little strap so it holds up my feeding tube when I use it. You can use velcro to do something similar and he may be able to feed himself with one hand but maybe not.
Last but not least, consider getting a Vitamix (with medical discount) and you can cook your regular meals for yourself, or at least dinner for two, and then put his entire meal into the Vitamix. It will then be able to go down his feeding tube.
I'm down to just breakfast. lunch, snack and dinner feedings (all Jevity 1.5 except for dinner which is the Vitamix)
I'll post more tomorrow when I can think of better suggestions on his attitude and feelings, but there is life with this condition and this addresses the physical issues.
Charm