Teri, Hang in, now is a really tough time, the waiting and wondering. If all of the lymph nodes prove to be negative your husband should not have to have RAD or CHEMO. Truthfully, the surgery will not be pleasant but things will return to normal. I went back to work in eight weeks after the surgery. I did not have to have speech therapy, it came back slowly. Today, I sound just about the way I used to, except when I am tired. Even then it is just a slight slur of a couple of letters, s and th give me a hard time.

I can understand your husband not talking, I know I didn't do a lot because I was so scared. Sometimes I think that the only thing that got me through this whole period in my life was the strength of my husand. However, he suffered too and it was with the help of friends that we made it.

Please email at youngerag@aol.com if you would like more information or support. I'm here to help you if you want. You both will be in my thoughts.

Anne.