To be honest, there were many times while I was in the hospital that I cried and wished I hadnt gone thru with the surgery. I was in incerdible pain from the graphs. It just seemed to be one misfornate event after another while I was in the hospital. I had problems with my peg tube and had to have it replaced while I was awake. My arm donor site had 40 staples in it and that hurt alot. The wounds on my legs ached. I was one huge open wound! It took me til I was aprox. 3-4 months post surgery to realize that I really was going to come out of this and be ok. These experiences are mine alone, others have bounced right back from this. Most patients are home from the hospital within 2 weeks of this surgery.

Even though I had a rough time, I would always choose life over doing nothing/death. Whenever there is a chance means that you shouldnt give up. If I had to do it over again, I still would have gone thru with it. Your decision as to what is best for your mother is something you and any other family members must weight and decide. I cant begin to understand how difficult this must be for you. Speak to her doctors and if you havent done so seek out a second opinion at a cancer center and take it from there. Best wishes!