I'd like to add my welcome Steve. Great advice already. You are setting off on a tough road and will need to put on some wait because yiu will lose a lot. Also if you can get family and friends to go to your appointments with you for a 2nd set of ears to pick up on things you might miss, help think of questions to ask or for moral support, it's a major help. Good luck and strength on your journey.

David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer.
And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer.
May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.