Hi- I would suggest a second opinion at a TOP teaching/ cancer hospital such as Sloan Kettering in NYC. Johns Hopkins Baltimore etc. Depending on where he lives & his insurance, it would dictate which hospital to go to. Do a google search US News Best Hospital Head & Neck Surgery to find the closest ones. In my case in LA the surgeon was the "Captain" of my treatment plan. Sometimes a Tumor Board makes a treatment plan, but in any case get to the best doc- no local yocals who treat a few cases a year. Docs with only hammers tend to view everything as a nail. Tongue cancer is curable if caught early and treatable at any stage. Good luck to you both!

SCC 2004 T1N0M0 L hemiglossectomy forearm flap reconstruction of Tongue
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