Billy - It is normal to be tired and everyone progresses at different rates. My son is about 8 months post end of Rad treatment and is still tired but the doctor says he is OK and not on any more paid medication and goes to work every day (computer programmer). I go to his house twice a week to help with chores. He mows the lawn (push mower) but in sections so his yard has different levels of grass growing! The back yard he just doesn't worry about because it's hidden behind a tall fence. I smile when I see his lawn mowing results because it reminds me how much better he is doing now than he was before when he needed help just getting into the house after his last Rad Tx. My son told me once that compared to Rad Tx, his surgery was a "piece of cake". Maybe you could print out some of other survivors postings and leave them in a spot where your wife may be likely to read them. I did that for my son when he was not paying attention to his medications and food/liquid intake. Sometimes people take advice more easily from someone they don't know rather than from a loved one. Try to stay positive. Things do get better!