Ive had the surgery you are talking about. It is no walk in the park! I think back to rad and chemo and all the side effects and think is was so much easier than this. I had my surgery in August and Im still recovering.

You need to go to an ENT who treats cancer patients and also a plastic surgeon who is familiar with this. I have excellent doctors who worked together to put a steel jaw in and tried to make it look ok. I dont look very good, but that will be fixed down the road. After radiation, its not easy to operate on that area. It wont heal and you can end up with huge problems.

Look for several more opinions before giving in to your second opinion. If you have an infection in your bone, that is very serious. You should be taking strong antibiotics or even IV antibiotics. Ive never heard of an infection being so bad it required extensive surgery, but Im not saying its not possible. I just dont know. For a bad infection, there is a special group of infectious disease doctors you can consult.

Hope you are able to get out in this beautiful weather and enjoy the holiday weekend. Worrying wont change anything or get you another doctor. Best of luck to you.