Welcome to the forum. Every story of someone going through this and coming out the other side gives hope to those just beginning the journey. I'm sure you will be able to give much needed answers and advice. Someone is bound to say it sooner or later so I will. It always help to add info about your dx and tx on your signature line so we all know where you've been each time you post.

David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer.
And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer.
May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.