Thanks to you both David and Ray, your taking the time is appreciated. It's all a slow process it seems, and an ongoing journey of discovery. Not one I ever thought I'd be doing with my child. But that's the hand we're dealt with, so we get on and take one step at a time and one day at a time, and together we'll get there. Thanks for the advice re the tongue stretching excercises. I'll pass that onto her.

She too is always biting her tongue, and I know it drives her mad but she never complains. She's a pretty amazing young woman.

Healing hugs to you both
Jude