I am sorry for all you are going through.
I do agree with Pandora that time for yourself may refresh you and Jim. I don't think this is selfish, it a way to show respect to life. A spiritual uplift.
Of course, I'm am all for the mani-pedicure, however, even 20 minutes browsing the local drug store and being around other shoppers may prove to be enough. Mabey a new lipstick for the party?

Ginny, spouse of MikeG. SSC BOT T2N1M0 Stage III, Dx 06/27/06 at age 52, Tx 07/31/06 through 09/28/06 Chemo Cisplatin & 5FU x2, Radiation x42. Cancer free and doing well.