Oh Amy- I am so sorry you are having to deal with this all while you too are trying to grieve. I have a 15 year old daughter who pretty much fell apart after my husband went through his 2nd round of treatments. She began having anxiety attacks while at church and school- she wouldnt go anywhere unless I was with her, she completely shut all friends out of her life. I looked into anti-depressants for her and there was nothing out there that could convince me that she would be 'safe' on them. I ended up finding a psychiatrist that specialized in post tramatic stress disorders. She really resisted the therapy at first, but slowly she began to come around and talk with her therapist. He began to walk her through the most frightening aspects of the cancer and her life and challenged her to begin living her life (he really took her slowly though). We are about 6 months out of therapy treatments now and finally are seeing the old Audra. I still run her in now and then to visit with him- because she sometimes needs a little tune up for her attitude. I really suggest finding someone who specializes in young adults/teens who has the ablility to prescribe meds (only if truly necessary) but who has experience in grief and post tramatic stress counsel. I wish you the best of luck and I believe you momma would be proud of the way you are looking out for your siblings. Keep strong-
Jennie