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Oops forgot to comment on your husband's refusal to get a PEG.
I was just as stubborn my first time around but did continue to force Ensures down. I even restarted the PEG wars on this board when I joined and warned PEG users they would forget how to swallow in the new normal. Instant Karma as the salvage surgery for the recurrence required a PEG when I failed the Barium Swallow Test. Unfortunately, in this case, from your description, a PEG may actually be the best for him. Once I got mine in, it wasn't so bad. A Peg meant admitting that I was really sick when I was adamant that only being "positive" about being "healthy" would get me through.
But if he needs an IV, he should rethink it. I never once had to be hydrated or get any IV except the chemo so not getting a PEG the first time around worked for me.
He needs to swallow liquid or solid food or else get a PEG.