Hey Christine
For you, I make an exception and totally advocate "positive". (and my distaste for that term is when it is "mandatory" or as more often happens - really "Pollyanna" )
Don't be alarmed by the moon face thread as I think that unfortunate soul's multiple organ transplants was a major factor in his lymphatic system giving up, My experience with complicated surgery requiring tag team surgeons and going for ten hours is that getting a neck dissection thrown in was almost a freebie. You are in the hospital long enough for them to monitor the drains and have then taken out as opposed to being sent home with them in and you need to worry about them as often happens with a neck dissection alone
So POSITIVE thoughts and best wishes. Eat up a storm this weekend and if your PEG is in, do some wine. Works for me
Charm