Great advise from everyone. I am trying to take care of myself and am seeing my doctor regularly. She is aware of our family situation and now has me on anti-depressents. They do help. Tom J hit the nail on the head - it is Ken's choice to get help for his depression. While I read everything I could get my hands on regarding treatments and side-effects, the change in Ken's personality has been the most surprising. The physical problems and changes was expected - the mental and emotional challenges have been the most difficult to manage. I think Ken was prepared to die - I don't think he was prepared to live.