I can barely believe this is all normal ... But good to know--- I am at wits end and honestly have thought I can't go on...but then feel bad as its "him " going through this-the pain,the disability etc. then lately with him glaring at me ( not my husband at all) , which upsets me more than I can say...today after a very long day and night spent in the hospital with him -and up all nite, he glared and lashed out verbally...and had to bite my tongue ... It's like sometimes I feel I'm bleeding love and pain and strength over this too for him ,the strength being sucked out of me,until I'm zombie like.... It's like I go from hurt and scorned , to ready to kick him in the butt! Then I offer suggestions from this forum (that he won't go on)- buy the stuff people suggest and things , and does he try it?! I guess if it was me, I feel if I was miserable , I would try anything to make it better? Suggestions would be welcome. Difference btwn male and female perhaps? Idk