Gina

You have gotten great advice. In considering cadaver vs your skin, you mentioned that the surgeon would use the thigh for the graft. My experience was that if they take it from the folds of the thigh, it leaves an almost invisible scar, barely noticeable.
Since I did have base of tongue, my surgery required the tongue flap to be from my wrist due to all the veins and arteries that could be tied into my mouth. But they filled in the gap in my wrist with a graft from the folded skin in my thigh. What was amazing was that the thigh graft healed faster and with little or no pain and just left my left thigh firmer and leaner than the right one.
Add that to your list of questions to see if your experience would be similar.
Charm