[quote=Gerri222]Hi I have been reading this message board since my mom came down with Oral cancer for a few years now.
You have educated me and for that I'm very grateful.

Mom is 83 now and has been our miracle surviving Lymphoma stage4 25 years ago.
Now she has Oral cancer since 11/2008. She has had chem/Radiation
and then a tumor showed up in March 2012 where they took it out. Well another tumor has appeared and they can no longer do any treatments she has had her limit. And they have opted out of having the Jaw removed and are going to let her go now.

My question: What is she going to be going through until the end? How long will it be? I don't want her in any pain and I don't feel my family is totally aware of what to expect and I needed some straight answers so I can help them prepare.
I love my mom she has dementia from all the treatments but I don't want to see her suffer what can I do? [/quote]

I can now answer my own question. Mom didn't suffer the doctors were wonderful about the medication and my dad tried so hard to care for her. I was up there last week in hopes for a hug and I got it and she knew who I was. A memory I will forever cherish. We noticed that things were going fast and they day I flew home Dad took her to the hospital then to Hospice. They treated her so wonderfully. My cousin was there and sang my mom's favorite hyms, and each of us kids called her and dad put the phone to her ear and we were able to say we love you but its time for you to go now. Today My dad was holding her hand and said "You are so beautiful you are my sweetheart forever, go see Jesus" and she passed away.

Thank you all for being such a wonderful group and keep passing the information you gain to others. The world just doesn't seem to see all of this but we do and we can do our best to pass the information on.
Thank you again for letting me share.
Gerri