My father is being a very head strong man and feels he can take care of her and please trust me he has done a wonderful job.
I have taken your advice and sent him an email requesting that he address the Hospice assistance now so it will help prepare for the further path ahead of them.

No other family lives near them and it drives me nuts when I suggest he needs help with her and his pride gets in the way. However I am writing him so that he will think about it and perhaps see that these needs should be addressed.

If the doctor feels she can't travel I am prepared to fly up there and work virtual for a week at least just to check on her myself and try to work with him in understanding the grand picture.

Thank you all for your sound advise and strong shoulders for me to lean on. Tomorrow I shall know more.
Gerri